Author: Imam Abu Hamid Muhammad al-Ghazali; Muhtar Holland (translator)
Publisher: Al-Baz Publishing (1998)
Pages: 99 Binding: Paperback
Description from the publisher:
This is Book XII of Imam Ghazali's 'Ihya Ulum al-Din (Revival of the Religious Sciences), translated by the eloquent Muhtar Holland. Topics of the section on marriage in the 'Ihya include: benefits of marriage, challenges of marriage, selecting a spouse, rules of married life, relations between husband and wife, having children, preferred actions at childbirth, obligations of spouses to each other, and avoiding divorce.
Imam Abu Hamid Muhammad al-Ghazali (450/1058-505/1111) is justly described
as a "towering figure" in the history of Islam. He was born in the Iranian town of
Tus, studied Islamic law and theology at the Seljuq college in Nishapur, and
became a distinguished professor at the famous Nizamiyya University in
Despite his glittering success, he was inwardly dissatisfied, so he abandoned his
career for the life of hardship, abstinence and devotion to worship. During ten
years of wandering, he experienced a spiritual transformation, in which the Truth
came to him at last, as something received rather than acquired.
Blessed with an inner certainty, he then applied his outstanding faculties and vast
learning to the task of revitalizing the whole Islamic tradition. Through his direct
personal contacts, and through his many writings, he showed how every element
in that tradition could and should be turned to its true purpose.
Imam Ghazali's magnum opus is aptly entitled "The Revival of the Religious
Sciences [Ihya' 'Ulum ad-Din]." In its four volumes, the author deals with every
aspect of the outer and inner life of the Muslim. The subject of Marriage,
discussed in the section covered by this translation, is surely of particular interest
and importance to Muslims and non-Muslims alike.
Table of Contents
On the merits and disadvantages of marriage.
1. The favorable view of marriage, supported by:
a) Qur'anic Verses [ayat] : b) Prophetic Traditions [akhbar] : c) Later Traditions
2. Traditions unfavorable to marriage.
3. The benefits of marriage:
a) The begetting of children. b) Immunity from Satan; relief from craving;
protection against the perils of lust. c) Relaxation and recreation for the soul. d)
Freedom from concern with running the household. e) Self-discipline and training
through custodianship and guardianship.
4. The disadvantages of marriage.
a) The difficulty of obtaining a lawful income. b) The difficulty of treating a wife
properly. c) Worldly distractions.
1. Concerning the marriage contract.
Basic elements and conditions:
a) Concerning the consent of the marriage guardian [wali]. b) Concerning the
agreement of the woman. c) Concerning the presence of witnesses. d) Concerning
the offer and immediate acceptance [ijab wa-qabul].
a) The proposal of marriage [khitba]. b) The religious address [khutba] before the
marriage. c) The bride should hear all about the bridegroom. It is likewise
recommended that the groom should get to see the bride before the wedding. d) It
is good to invite other virtuous people, as well as the witnesses. e) The
bridegroom should marry with the intention of upholding the Prophetic example, of
preserving modesty, of seeking offspring, and of obtaining the other benefits
mentioned above. f) It is recommended that the marriage be contracted in the
mosque and in the month of Shawwal.
2. Concerning the qualifications of the bride.
Legal impediments to marriage:
a) She is already married to another. b) She is in the period of withdrawal ['idda]
following widowhood, repudiation, or intercourse of uncertain legality. c) She has
become an apostate ['murtadda] from Islam. d) She is a Magian [Zoroastrian]. e)
She is an idolatress or atheist [zindiqa], owing allegiance to no Prophet or
Scripture. f) She is a woman of scriptural religion, but embraced that religion after
it had been falsified, or subsequent to the mission of Allah's Messenger (Allah
bless him and give him peace). g) She is a slave, while the prospective husband is
a free man, either capable of supporting a free woman, or impoverished but
immune to moral danger if he remains unmarried. h) She is wholly or partially
owned as a slave by the prospective husband. i) She is closely related to the
prospective husband, being an ascendant or descendant of his, a descendant of his
ascendants in the first degree, or a descendant in the first degree of a more
remote ascendant. j) She is forbidden through the relationship of suckling, which
creates the same impediments as blood kinship with ascendants and descendants.
k) She is related to him through marriage. l) She would be a fifth wife. m) Her
sister or her aunt (paternal or maternal) is already married to the prospective
husband. n) If the prospective husband has thrice repudiated her, she is unlawful
to him as long as she has not consummated a valid marriage with a different
husband. o) When the man has pronounced the oath of anathema [li'an] against
his wife, she is thereby forever unlawful to him. p) Either party is in a state of
consecration [ihram] for the Pilgrimage or Visitation [to Mecca]; the marriage
cannot be contracted till deconsecration has been completed. q) She is a
non-virgin minor; marriage with her is not valid until after she has attained
puberty. r) She is an orphan; marriage with her is not valid until after she has
attained puberty. s) She was one of the wives of Allah's Messenger (Allah bless
him and give him peace), and was left a widow by him, or he has cohabited with
her; such women are 'Mothers of the Believers.'
Qualities in the woman that are conducive to a happy married life:
a) Religious devotion. b) Goodness of character. c) Beauty. d) Moderate dower.
e) Fertility. f) Virginity. g) Good lineage. h) Absence of close kinship.
3. Qualities desirable in the husband.
Points to be considered by the marriage guardian [wali].
1. Duties of the husband.
The husband must observe fair treatment and good conduct in twelve matters:
a) the wedding feast; b) companionship; c) dalliance; d) the exercise of authority;
e) jealousy; f) maintenance; g) education; h) distribution of time; i) chastisement
for disobedience; j) sexual intercourse; k) producing children; l) separation
Concerning birth control ['azl].
Proprieties connected with the birth of children:
a) A man should not be too overjoyed at getting a boy, nor unduly sad at getting a
girl. b) Giving the Call to Prayer in the baby's ear. c) A fine name should be given,
as something to which the child has a right. d) The 'aqiqa [customary sacrifice of
sheep]. e) Rubbing the child's palate.
In divorcing a wife, the husband must observe the following four points:
a) He should divorce her during a period of inter-menstrual purity, in which he has
not copulated with her. b) He should confine himself to a single repudiation
pronouncement, and not use a three-in-one formula. c) He should be gentle in
giving his reasons for repudiating her. d) He should not reveal secrets about his
wife, no more after a repudiation than during the marriage itself.
2. Rights of the husband.
The wife owes her husband absolute obedience in whatever he may demand of
her, where she herself is concerned, as long as no sin is involved. We find many
traditions emphasizing the husband's right over his wife.
Brief summary of the proprieties to be observed by a wife.
by Rohana Filippi
"Wa ma ana mina
and your families"