Author: Dr. Fadl al Ilahi
Publisher: Invitation to Islam (2003)
Pages: 128 Binding: Paperback
Description from the publisher:
Undoubtedly, the heart leans towards those who are kind and gentle. It was said a long time ago: “Make your face and your words gentle, and you will be more beloved to the people than those who give them a gift.”
Likewise, it is part of human nature to turn away from severity and harsh heartedness even if it were to come from (our Prophet who is) the best of Allah the Most High’s creatures. Allah the Most high says:
“…And had you been severe and harsh hearted, they would have broken away from you..” (Sura Aal-‘Imran:159)
The one calling to the religion of Islam and dealing with other people has the utmost nee to gather the people around him, and cause their hearts to lean towards him so that they will listen to him. Adorning himself with kindness and gentleness helps achieve that goal with the Grace of Allah.
Texts of the Noble Quran and the pure (authentic) Sunnah clearly explain how important it is for the calling to Islam to adorn himself with kindness. Likewise, (our Prophet who is) the leader of all callers to the religion of Islam and their role model is an example of how to use kindness when calling to the religion of Allah the Most High (Islam). Also, many of the scholars have emphasized how important it is for the one calling to Islam to adorn himself with kindness.
It is also of the utmost importance that a person has kindness and gentleness when he is dealing with people in his everyday life, kindness and gentleness towards his parents, his children, his brothers and sisters, his relatives and friends. It is because of this kindness and gentleness that the people will find pleasure in being around him.